Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Annual Sister Weekend




















It was with tremendous joy and anticipation that I received this card in the mail just yesterday.
About eight years ago, my four sisters and I began a winter tradition of heading off to a remote cabin somewhere and spending weekend together, sans kids, husbands, jobs, and responsibilities. From year to year it has been necessary to make certain adjustments. Twice in 8 years, I have brought along a nursing babe, and once we needed to forgoe the cabin entirely to attend our auntie's funeral, and stay near our mother, who had just lost her dearest friend. Sometimes not every sister was present, as Carol spent several years working internationally. This year, I eagerly anticipate connecting with all my sisters, in a great little cabin on the lake.

Our highlights include: Lots of treks through the snow, hunting through some abandoned cabins,"chic" food (hummous, fruit, grainy breads, chocolate, stirfries, NO STEAKS, lots of wine, and maybe a flask or two of sour puss. ) We like to hit the liquor commision together on our way so that we can find something unusual and bizarre to try together. Then Laura usually loads up on several thousand magazines to stack on the coffee table, and Kathy comes armed with a few billion candles to burn. Mary and Carol are sure to come with a new project, Carol's is usually a tree-hugging concept like rug hookiing using recycled felted wool strips in burlap. Mary will obsessively crochet something, thrilled at each little design that appears under her nimble fingers. Now, lest you think we wander into the woods to have a dull time, I would be amiss to leave out the important features of this event.

Over the years we have been known to laugh until we peed (okay, not all of us, but I have to maintain some sense of dignity and privacy here), we have laughed until we cried, we have cried for each others hurts and struggles, we have shared deep, somewhat dark thoughts by the light of Kathy's candles, we've seen each other go through relational, financial, personal, and health challenges. We've had to watch Laura complete quilting projects while nearly simultaneously writhing on the floor to windsor pilates. We've witnessed the liberation of a yellow chair,a red suitcase, and a snow-covered coffee table from a lifeless existence in rubble, and see them go on to live full and productive lives. We've patiently endured Kathy's pedicure treatments, and selflessly munched through Mary's loaves of nutty bread just to give the poor gals a sense of belonging.

And although I think I know these people, I recognize that every year I get to see a little deeper into their personal realities. This is a tremendous honour and blessing.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow. You've almost got me crying. Really. And almost speechless - which is a little awkward when I'm trying to communicate something. What is this awesome feeling? Belonging? Love? Anticipation? Joy? Appreciation? Rich emotions, thoughts and memories, beautiful and painful, all woven into that rich tapestry of life. A little taste of heaven and what that will be like. And possibly, just possibly, not having taken all my medication yet today....
Laura

joyce said...

Maybe its just a little lint in your eyes from your fat quarters (and yes, I am referring to those in the quilting sense of the word!)Don't forget to pack that SMTWTFS handy dandy pill pack!
Love you. see you friday.

Anonymous said...

Nope. It's not (fabric) fat quarter lint, since I had not been around them yet today. And the lint/dust bunnies had not been disturbed enough today to cause problems, I thought. I AM sewing this wild! shirt to wear this weekend. Kind of a party shirt. The beautiful voice of Monika Martin in the background.
Will I need boots? Hope not. I think I've thrown them all out. Three more days!

Anonymous said...

It does sound heavenly, my aunts and cousins do the same thing every year to a cabin called "comfort inn", located in the beautiful US of A. Just across the beautiful Canadian line. We get to see a glimpse into the lives of our mothers childhood, and see that maybe there is a reason they are all so disfunctional, yet glued together with a strong addhesive of love and loyalty, that withstands any trivial or not so trivial heart breaks they have all experienced in this life time. What would they do without eachother? I don't know....What would I do without them?....I don't that either. I just cherish every year we all start planning and fighting about our trek to Grand Forks!

Celena said...

Geez, I wish I had sisters!

joyce said...

Big wide grin.. I feel like I got a little corner market on goodness here! thanks for the comments.

Anonymous said...

What great memories we have! As I read your blog, pictures and places came to me, including exactly where I was sitting in the tiny little cabin when I heard that our wonderful aunt Anne had passed away. I hope our nieces and nephews get half as much fun out of watching US as we do (did) watching mom and her sisters.

Rah rah tomorrow here we come! It will make my depressing day much more bearable!